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Home for Christmas

“I’ll be home for Christmas.”

There’s a hush to those words, isn’t there? They hold a gentle ache, a tender longing. Every December, when papers are graded, the last emails are sent, and the house finally falls quiet, we hear it again and again — ‘Are you going home for Christmas?‘

That question is so simple.
And yet it opens a door into a deeper hunger inside us.

A hunger for a home where we belong.
A home that feels safe and warm.
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The Surprise of Advent

—Psalm 146, Revelation 1:1–8

The surprise of Advent is not that Messiah comes—but where He comes, and what He comes to do.

“I am the Alpha and the Omega,” says the Lord God, “who is, and who was, and who is to come, the Almighty.” (Revelation 1:8)

As a child, I imagined that Almighty One as enormous and untouchable—robed in fire, seated on a throne somewhere above the stars. Holy and distant. Fearsome and vast. But the psalmist paints a different portrait of the One for whom we wait. Read More

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Making Space for God

I love a clear kitchen counter. A clutter-free table. Surfaces clean. No visual chaos. 

Before a meal, before a conversation, before a group gathers—these small acts of preparation say something meaningful is about to happen here. This I savor. 

As we pause this Thanksgiving week, the clear, expectant table feels especially right. Gratitude itself is a way of making space—of remembering, noticing, and preparing our hearts for what God is doing among us. Read More

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Embracing Hospitality, Listening, and Mentoring

In a world teeming with noise and distractions, the teachings of Jesus offer a roadmap to cultivate deeper connections with God and others through hospitality, listening, and mentoring. These three practices are not isolated acts but integral threads woven into the fabric of a life lived in faith. By embodying these principles, we participate in the spiritual formation of ourselves and others, creating a ripple effect of transformation.

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David: A Walking Contradiction

Though this reflection speaks directly to men, David’s story offers insight for all of us who wrestle with forgiveness, calling, failure, and grace. 

A Call to Men

David was called a man after God’s own heart. That wasn’t a title; it was a name whispered by God—a way of saying, ‘I know this man, flaws and all, and I still choose him.’ David’s identity was forged not in the noise of battle but in the quiet hours under the stars, where only sheep and sky kept him company. Out there, he came to know God as a companion, friend, and coach. He learned to trust that “my times are in your hands.” Read More

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Show Me the Way

Show Me the Way

Henri Nouwen was a man of many worlds — Dutch, Catholic, professor at Yale — yet he walked away from the shining halls of academia into the gentle margins of life. Following Jesus’ footprints into the quiet, often overlooked sanctuary of L’Arche, where people with disabilities live together in community.

 

That world was not unfamiliar to me. My brother Jerry carries his own story — one shaped by the way others whispered, “Be careful around that young man.” And the harsh names they hurled like stones, retard seemed to be the most common. Nouwen exchanged the polished halls of prestige for the sacred ground of obscurity. Read More

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Reclaiming Vocation: A Conversation with Keith Anderson

Recently, I had the joy of sitting down with my friend, who is not only passionate about developing leaders, spiritual formation, and adult learning, but also one who offers “quality attention” to those who share his company, Keith Anderson, to talk about his newest book, On Holy Ground: Finding Your Story of Identity, Belonging, and Sacred Purpose.

Our conversations are a sacred space, a shared journey within the stunning story of Jesus—honest, hopeful, and full of wonder (and some good laughs). While discussing his latest book, Keith reminded me that vocation is not just about what we do, but about who we are becoming with God in the ordinary places of our lives.

You can watch our full conversation on VP3’s YouTube Channel. Read More

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ICU on a Friday Night

We entered the lobby of Swedish Hospital carrying both a wavering uncertainty and a sober clarity about what this day would hold. Like Solomon in Ecclesiastes, our hearts were divided: is it a time for life or a time for death? Faith in the face of death asks us to hold both.

 

We knew what was waiting in room 316 in the ICU.  Wendy’s sister, Terri, was about to be released from the chains of overwhelming pain. We knew that her life support would soon be removed. What we didn’t know was what the hours ahead would feel like—how heaven and earth might draw close in this sacred space.

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Writing Your Story for Healing and Transformation

One of the privileges of my life was to help create what The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology calls “The Allender Center for Trauma and Abuse.”  Their work has shown again and again how writing your story for healing can bring clarity, insight, and transformation for those who carry pain or untold stories.

 

It is a ministry that highlights the work of my colleague and predecessor, Dan Allender, a seminal thinker and student of trauma and abuse, who served as president of the school.  The focus includes one of the most transformative processes for those who deal with trauma (probably all of us in some way or another) called The Story Workshop.  I invite you to visit The Allender Center online to see what they offer.

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Following, Wandering, or Sitting?

Have you ever felt a question sink into your soul, stirring something long buried? Questions that awaken us to the deep journey of following Jesus home.

Some questions whisper through our lives like the wind, while others crash like waves against the shore, reshaping everything in their wake: “Will you marry me?” or “Will you take this job?” Perhaps a question like mine, “Have you ever considered that you are being called to pastoral ministry?” The words came from a pastor, but they echoed something more profound—something my immigrant grandmother had first spoken of me when I was just a child: “This one will be the pastor.” I had chosen another path, a Ph.D. in history, but this question brought me back to a calling I thought I had silenced.

Henri Nouwen asks us a question just as piercing: 

“Are you following Jesus? Not in name alone, not in habit or tradition, but in the depths of your being. Are you a follower?” [1]

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