The third practice for a friend or mentor to walk well with others is prayerfulness.
Prayer in this mentoring context is about cultivating a deep trust in the loving movement of God in the life of another. As mentors or friends, we pay attention to the everyday life of others, helping them identify and see what is already in play and at work. Amidst the comings and goings of work and school, amidst the meals and chores, amidst the anxieties and arguments and joys of family and community, we become what Barbara Brown Taylor calls “detectives of divinity.”
We facilitate awareness of God’s already present and loving activity in their lives; we seek and discern together what God might be up to in our midst. The extraordinary mountain top moments of epiphany and revelation are few and rare but, the probing of our questions draws us back to the central action of spirituality: paying attention to the presence of God in everything.
When joined with the practices of listening and question-asking, prayer fosters an environment of grace and truth and expectation. As Aelrid of Rievaulx put it so invitingly centuries ago:
Here we are, you and I, and I hope a third, Christ in our midst…. Come now, beloved, open your heart, and pour into these friendly ears whatsoever you will, and let us accept gracefully the blessing of this place, time, and leisure.
So, what sort of soul companions are we becoming as we travel together on this journey? In many ways, these three practices (listening, question-asking, and prayerfulness) are straightforward, but they are hard to live out consistently and compassionately. We can grow in our capacity to do these things well. But there is a sense in which each of these activities requires the disposition of a beginner. We will always know the struggle of listening well or asking thoughtful questions or praying honestly. But if we become good soul companions for others, then we will be lifelong learners of each of these practices.
Our Prayer
Dear Lord, help us become more aware that your Spirit goes before us, walks alongside us, and goes after us in our relationships with one another. Encourage us to put into practice a prayerful way of seeing others we can walk alongside. I know you will be faithful to walk alongside me. Confirm in my spirit the person/s I am to walk within this season of life. Amen.
Reflect and Respond
Prayerfully prepare for this mentoring ministry. Take time to evaluate how you see yourself in the following areas:
- How are you doing as a listener these days?
- How are you doing as an interested question-asker?
- How are you modeling a heart of prayerfulness with others?
- How do you sense the Spirit at work in your own life?